Happiness is Your Responsibility

Who is ultimately responsible for your happiness? Is it your family, your boss, your co-workers, your friends, or the world at large? Not at all. The only person responsible for your happiness is YOU.

You have control over this. It is not what happens to you or around you that influences your happiness – it is how you choose to react to these events that make the difference. “Bad” things happen to everyone. But if you let them drag your mood and attitude down, where do you end up? You end up unhappy and frustrated, experiencing a “long and tiring” day.

I bet a dollar to a donut that you do not get up each day hoping it will be “long and tiring.” What you really want is a day that leaves you energized and better off at the end than at the beginning. You want to feel that you have truly accomplished something each day. That only happens when you are happy.

I recently viewed a presentation by Herman Cain, former CEO of Godfather’s Pizza, about happy customers in which he credits his minister for defining happiness. According to him, in order to be truly happy, you need three key elements: 

Something to love, something to do, and something to hope for.

You cannot be happy without love in your life, without a purpose in your life, and without a dream for your future. It is the interplay of these three things that gives value and meaning to our lives, and in which we find happiness.

Reflection and Action

If you are missing one or more of these three elements of happiness, you have some important work to do. Here's a step-by-step approach to guide you:

1. Self-Assessment:

   • Reflection: Take some quiet time to reflect on your current state of happiness. Are you feeling fulfilled in your relationships, your career, and your future aspirations?

   • Journaling: Write down your thoughts and feelings. Sometimes, putting things on paper can offer clarity and insight into what’s missing.

2. Goal-Setting:

   • Specific Goals: Identify clear and specific goals related to the elements you are missing. For example, if you lack something to love, you might set a goal to spend more quality time with family or to get involved in community service.

   • Measurable Milestones: Break down your goals into measurable milestones. This makes it easier to track your progress and stay motivated.

3. Action Plan:

   • Detailed Steps: Create an actionable plan outlining the steps you need to take to achieve your goals. Prioritize these steps and focus on one at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

   • Schedule Time: Allocate time each week to work on these steps. Consistency is the key to making lasting changes.

4. Seek Support:

   • Accountability Partners: Don’t hesitate to reach out for support from friends, family, or a mentor. Share your goals with a trusted friend or family member who can provide support and hold you accountable.

   • Mentorship: Consider seeking guidance from a mentor who has experience in the areas you wish to improve. Their insights can be invaluable.

5.     Celebrate Milestones:

• Recognize Progress: Take time to celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. This will foster a sense of accomplishment and keep you motivated.

• Reward Yourself: Treat yourself to something enjoyable when you reach a milestone. This positive reinforcement can make the journey more enjoyable.

The Power of Mindset

Adopting a growth mindset can significantly impact your journey towards happiness. Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and view setbacks as learning experiences. Remember, happiness is not a destination but a continuous journey.

Is it work – YES.

Is it worth it? – Hell YES!